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Oct. 23rd, 2005 10:08 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
numberlandWell, I'm very silly, I thought my back was getting much better and hence it wouldn't be a problem lifting a bike over a shortish gate with the assistance of 2 other women wouldn't be a problem (doing works on a legal bike route with no warning signs such that this is necassary is a bit mean). I was wrong. I have spent most of today in bed at least partly as a result (I think I also have a cold coming on). Ah well, much better now, will be very careful for at least a few days.
Speaking of being careful (ish) is there anyone (well really 2 people) who is in town on Tuesday/Wednesday afternoon and is willing to help me collecting a mini freezer(yeah! ice cream!) from Robert Sayles? I live on King Street, so the plan is to get college trolley and walk is over, there's one flight of (outdoor) stairs up to my room which is why I need the help. I could just ask people in College but, hey, lj's here...
On other subjects, I've been wondering how much it's okay to rely on other people for help and support. I generally try to take that attitude that it's the person who's being asked responsibility to say if somethings to much. I suppose what I'm wondering is at what point is it okay/good to ask for help. I'm talking more emotional support as practical stuff seems less complicated.
Obviously if help is truely needed (practically or emotionally) that's pretty much always fine, but when does it become not fine? When you could cope but would probably moop for several days instead? When you need to chat for 1/2 an hour so you can then actually concentrate on the work you need to do instead of not being able to at all?
Anyway, far too tired to make sense at the moment... The basis things I work with is:
1) If it'll make a significant difference ask
2) Be clear about how much you need it
And for me 3) acknowledge how much I have to cope with and how well I am doing
4) remember that sometimes helping others can be a great experience so the converse might apply.
Hmm, will see if this makes more sense in the morning...
Speaking of being careful (ish) is there anyone (well really 2 people) who is in town on Tuesday/Wednesday afternoon and is willing to help me collecting a mini freezer(yeah! ice cream!) from Robert Sayles? I live on King Street, so the plan is to get college trolley and walk is over, there's one flight of (outdoor) stairs up to my room which is why I need the help. I could just ask people in College but, hey, lj's here...
On other subjects, I've been wondering how much it's okay to rely on other people for help and support. I generally try to take that attitude that it's the person who's being asked responsibility to say if somethings to much. I suppose what I'm wondering is at what point is it okay/good to ask for help. I'm talking more emotional support as practical stuff seems less complicated.
Obviously if help is truely needed (practically or emotionally) that's pretty much always fine, but when does it become not fine? When you could cope but would probably moop for several days instead? When you need to chat for 1/2 an hour so you can then actually concentrate on the work you need to do instead of not being able to at all?
Anyway, far too tired to make sense at the moment... The basis things I work with is:
1) If it'll make a significant difference ask
2) Be clear about how much you need it
And for me 3) acknowledge how much I have to cope with and how well I am doing
4) remember that sometimes helping others can be a great experience so the converse might apply.
Hmm, will see if this makes more sense in the morning...
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Date: 2005-10-23 09:54 pm (UTC)I think the issue is more how you ask for it. Whether you're really demanding or whether you're open to the fact that any particular friend may only be able to provide a certain amount of support or even none at all.
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Date: 2005-10-24 09:55 am (UTC)Also, a good idea of what you need is clear - sometimes it is easy to just get someone else to entertain you and cheer you up, but with a bit of effort a good book and hot chocolate could have done the trick...